Why Anger Management Doesn't work!
Have you ever got sooo angry you felt yourself turn into the incredible hulk?
I have LOL
I used to be a right fire-cracker.
Any little thing would trigger me, I was like an active volcano about to erupt any second or anytime anyone scratched the surface of any of my wounds.
Although I had no idea that that was what was happening.
Anger if you didn't know already is a what is known as a "secondary emotion", so anger is never the real issue. This is why in my opinion "anger management" doesn't seem to work. If you are trying to "manage" your anger then you will NEVER get to the root cause of the anger and forever be in a battle, like incidentally the incredible hulk, fighting to keep it at bay.
You often use anger to protect your wound - and I mean the kind of anger that takes over your persona.
So coming from your ego, it's not a bad emotion - it is justifiable because it is trying to keep you safe.
On the good side, anger shows you where you feel your boundaries are being violated and points to where you need to look at within yourself.
You can learn a lot from anger if you choose to embrace it that is.
Anger tells you what still needs healing and literally pinpoints the wounds you are resisting or refusing to accept.
Over the years of healing my deepest heart wounds one of the things I noticed is that what used to trigger me simply doesn't anymore. I have witnessed this also happen with a lot of my clients who suffered in particular with narcissistic abuse.
Once the wound is healed, there is nothing for you to protect.
The wound incidentally is the hook, it is what gets triggered.
So if you want to stop getting triggered, stop reacting out of rage, or if you have a short fuse...
You need healing.
And I would love to guide you, click here to know more.
P.S. there is a healthy type of anger, will get to that on one of my next blogs.
All techniques and information I share are considered coaching, self-help or complementary therapies. I am not a licensed psychologist, psychiatrist or medical doctor, I have a degree in Health Sciences in Complementary Therapies. Everything I write and talk about comes mainly from my own experience in healing myself and the tools, techniques, and resources I learned throughout my own inner journey.
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