There is a ton in the market right now about goal setting, manifesting and transforming your life, however there are not many who tackle ALL of the elements involved (at least the way I see it). Some focus only on taking action (coaching), others say it’s only about energy (energy healing) and then there are those that use all the mind techniques (visualization & NLP for example) some of which you have to do a thousand times a day to get some result. But what about emotional wounds? (You know I’m obsessed with this topic!) And what if your heart is not in it? Meaning you want it in your head, you like the idea of it but your heart is not excited. What do you do then? My point is I don’t see anything that deeply addresses transformation (or manifesting if you prefer) for people like you and I who…
  • Want to create transformation and make things happen in a grounded, practical yet soulful way (no airy-fairy techniques or new age fluff)
  • Understand how trauma impacts your psychology and how this affects your negative life patterns, behaviour and what you attract into your life experience and the importance of addressing this
  • Know that it’s not just about thinking positively 24/7 because this is toxic positivity and just another way you avoid doing the real inner work
  • Want to transform your life and continue to grow and evolve in a way where you can actually enjoy the process and start living a life you love living!
Early on in my spiritual journey, I jumped on the bandwagon of manifestation, law of attraction and unbeknown to me “magical thinking”. Yes, I was looking for the magic wand. Sadly, most of it was nonsense and occasionally some little things would manifest. This then lead me on a journey of finding out what really worked, why did some things only work a little and why was it not working for everyone?  I ended up investing a lot of time and money on new-age fluff which got me nowhere. Although I do regret a lot of the investment I made on these courses, I can sit here today and tell you what works, what doesn’t and WHY so you don’t waste your time and money. 

Here are 5 Key Elements to Manifest More of What You Want in Your Life: 

1. Clarity & Aligned Action

Taking action is the first element I feel is important when manifesting what you want in your life. 

But before you can take any action you have to know where you are going, meaning getting clear about what you want to manifest, because… 

 

“If you don’t where you are going, then any road will get you there.” – Lewis Carroll

 

For example, if you want to manifest a job, you can’t just sit at home all day watching Netflix and expect a job opportunity to land on your lap. You must be proactive and start networking, sending out your CV to companies you want to work in or people you know whom you feel may be able to help you, attending social events and so on.  

By taking action you are moving closer towards your goal. 

By taking action you are essentially moving closer to your goals and what you want to create in your life. You are taking control, being proactive and taking the power into your own hands rather than doing nothing and getting all negative and feeling sorry for yourself. 

 

When you take action you are setting in motion an energy of the direction you want to go. 

 

Inaction often brings up doubts and fear. 

The longer you stay in inaction, the more doubt creeps in and this ends up affecting your self-esteem and create a lack of self-confidence. So the best thing you can do, even if you don’t know if it’s the right thing to do, is to take some action, any action.  

You will at least get the feedback you need by taking action and seeing the results. 

A lovely client came to one of my manifesting & healing circles I used to run monthly. She wanted to manifest a job. That evening after the workshop while she was already in her pyjamas she received a message from a friend asking her to come out and meet her at a bar. Although she wouldn’t normally do that, especially since she was ready for bed, she felt inspired to go. While she was there she ended up meeting someone who was looking for someone like her, with her tech skills for a freelance project. Now, it wasn’t the steady job position she was looking for BUT she received some training and worked freelance for a while until she landed the job she was looking for which, lo and behold, wanted her to have the training she received previously! So it wasn’t initially what she wanted but it was a step in the right direction to eventually attract what she did want. 

Also, it’s super important to take aligned or inspired action because it’s the energy behind your actions that counts. Imagine that you are desperate and needy and you take action from this space… what do you think will happen when you do that? You will be creating more desperation and lack in your life. 

 

When you FEEL inspired, take action.

 

If you don’t know what to do, think logically about what would be your next step and take action anyway and then notice what you start attracting and receive the feedback from your reality. 

And when you feel desperate and needy, take some time to go within and do your emotional inner work – more on this below. 

2. Emotional Flow 

One of the biggest breakthroughs I had on learning how to manifest was when I started to process some of my childhood traumas and noticed how some of my negative patterns started to change. I also noticed that with most of my clients that were really stuck in creating transformation in their life or manifesting things such as a job or love, were the ones that had deep emotional wounds and childhood traumas. To give you an example, I worked with a lady who was not able to find a job. It had been 2 years and she felt completely blocked. I asked her what had happened 2 years previously and she said her father had passed away. I got an intuitive hit that she had grief work to do. I shared this with her and we focused on fully grieving and accepting her father’s passing which she had suppressed and was unable to move forward. 2 weeks after we finished working together, she got a job. This emotional wound was blocking her ability to manifest a job. The way I see it, her Soul was blocking her and did not want to move forward without first giving herself space to fully grieve her father’s passing. In her mind, she wanted to suppress her emotions, move on and get on with her life but her heart & Soul were unable to do that.  Becoming aware of how emotional wounds block our manifestation, this became one of the key elements I started to focus on when clients had blocks to creating a change, healing, attracting love or manifesting what they want in their life.  

If you want to become a great manifestor, focus on healing and releasing your emotional wounds. 

Your emotions carry a frequency and if you have a lot of unhealed emotional wounds inside you, then this is the frequency you are giving off to the world (whether you are aware of it or not) and this is what you will attract into your life. 

Your point of attraction will be determined by what you need to heal.

This is why I believe no amount of meditation, visualization or saying affirmations will work if you have a lot of deep emotional wounds. Until you heal those emotional wounds, your point of attraction cannot change because those wounds reside in your body. And this is not just “energy” or airy-fairy stuff, this is based on science. Emotions are chemical reactions that occur inside our bodies and are carried by neurotransmitters called peptides. Every emotion has its own specific peptide. If you don’t process your emotions, then they stay in your body vibrating “what you don’t want” 24/7. 

You don’t manifest what you think about, you manifest how you FEEL. 

So if you have taken all the action, tried visualizing, mindset work and nothing is working, consider doing some emotional inner work.     

3. Clear Mindset 

There is a saying “energy flows where attention goes”. Have you heard of this before?

Are you aware of your attention most of the time?

Do you constantly worry about the future? Or maybe you’re always feeling sad thinking about the past?

We have thousands of thoughts per day, some say up to 70,000 thoughts a day! How many of these thoughts are you aware of?

We are actually not aware of half of these thoughts because most of them are unconscious so we can’t truly know.

The best we can do is pay attention to our conscious thoughts and the way we think about events, circumstances and situations, and to start to change the way we perceive things to a more empowering viewpoint.

A more empowering viewpoint is neutral, you have no judgment or heavy emotional charge about what you are perceiving, you approach the situation with curiosity and with a learning mindset.

A clear mindset is when you have no judgment about the situation or event happening in your life no matter how “negative” it seems on the outside.

If you have a negative mindset you will immediately have very negatively charged viewpoints, limiting beliefs and only see limitations instead of the opportunity the event is trying to show you.

 

A clear mindset is optimistic, sees the positive, the silver lining, the opportunity in every experience.

 

In other words, what can I learn here? What is this situation, event or pattern showing me or trying to teach me?

A negative mindset will block your ability to perceive possibilities.

A negative mindset will basically block your healing or manifestation. It stops the flow of energy and your ability to move forward. You will not be able to “receive” new thoughts, ideas, solutions or even change your negative beliefs until you change the way you view things.

 

“When you change the way you look at things, the things you look at change.”
– Wayne Dyer

 

According to the famous double-slit experiment, the observer effect actually influences reality. Observing events changes them. So the way you look at and perceive your reality will determine what you see more of – how amazing is that? This is good news for you because it means that just changing your mindset and how you perceive the world and your experiences can support you in changing your point of attraction.  

 

When you have a clear mindset you will be able to receive inspired thoughts, ideas and creative solutions that will move in the direction of what you desire to manifest in your life.

 

By having a clear mindset, you can use the power of your mind to focus on your heart’s vision and generate a stream of consciousness to assist you in creating the transformation you desire.

This is why, when it comes to healing or creating any form of transformation in your life, it’s important to have a clear goal or a vision before you even start so that you can know where to place your attention and focus on all the right things.

4. Congruent Being 

Your being is who you are. 

This may sound a little strange but if I say to you, that person is such a “bully” you will know exactly what I mean without me even telling you all the traits and characteristics of the person. 

The same goes if I say, he’s such a gentleman or she’s such a mother or so kind. You will have an idea of the kind of person they are by me saying those words. 

So when it comes to attracting more of what you want into your life you have to BE that consciousness. 

If you want to manifest love, you need to BE love, meaning be more loving to both yourself and others. 

If you want to manifest abundance, you must BE abundance. You could ask yourself what would an abundant person be like? Or who would you BE if you were abundant? Would you be more grateful for all the things you do have first and notice the abundance around you, for example?  

 

You raise your vibration and magnetize more of what your heart desires by BEING the consciousness of what you desire. 

 

You must become the person you need to BE now. This means you must act like the person you will be when you have what you desire now and not when you have it. 

 

You manifest who you ARE. 

 

A part of being is also in your speech. Do you talk negatively about not being able to attract what you desire? Do you complain about it all the time? Do you blame people or your circumstances for not being able to change or create the transformation you desire?

If you do, stop it!

Start talking positively and constructively about what you want to create. This means asking questions about the solution instead or maybe even asking for help! 

Being fully congruent in your “being” with what you want to manifest allows you to be in alignment with your manifestation which is part of what makes your energy magnetic – in other words, this can speed up your manifestation or transformation. 

As Gandhi once said, “be the change”.⁣

5. Soul’s Desire 

Now for the finale, the key concept you must understand is that what you desire, you create. I’m not talking about what you think you want, what you say you want or what you want consciously in your mind. I’m talking about what your Soul desires. 

What your Soul desires, you create. 

So if you’re not creating what you say you want in your life then your mind and your heart are not in alignment.   Your point of attraction is completely determined by your soul’s will. I believe that at our core we are creators.  The problem I see often is we try to create from our wounded egos rather than our hearts.

When your heart’s desire is pure, sincere and from a place of love, you become magnetic to what you want to attract into your life. 

The most instant and magical manifestations I’ve experienced have all been through my heart. I sincerely desired something from a place of love and because it was what I was guided to do (and even just an inspiration to do something) and within 24 hours to a week that thing would manifest. From summoning clients out of thin air when I had no money, to groups of women contacting me to teach at an all expenses paid retreat, an helicopter ride I wanted to go on (I just so happened to sit next to a helicopter pilot after I set this intention – I mean what are the odds), raffle prizes, tickets and free entrances to events that were sold out, and even famous mentors coming into my life willing to support me for FREE.  I don’t say this to boast, because I barely talk about the stuff I’ve manifested in my life, more so to point out that I didn’t have the money or resources half the time, but what I did have was a sincere desire that stemmed from a loving place in my heart. I took action on all the elements I mentioned above and because everything was aligned, my manifestations happened quickly and effortlessly. 

If you do the inner work and take action on all the elements above, all you are left with is to trust the process. 

The HOW and the time element should not be your concern, let God or the Universe take care of that for you. Manifestation is NOT linear.

And to all of you determined co-creators and conscious manifestors, 

If you’re eager to learn more and allow me to guide you through the inner process of alignment (meaning lots of inner work to remove your roadblocks to your manifestation), check out my Manifest Your Heart’s Desire Course where I guide you through this process to create your own unique manifestation system so that you can attract more of what your heart truly desires.  Click here for more info!  I will see you on the inside <3 

All techniques and information I share are considered coaching, self-help or complementary therapies. I am not a licensed psychologist, psychiatrist or medical doctor, I have a degree in Health Sciences in Complementary Therapies. Everything I write and talk about comes mainly from my own experience in healing myself and the tools, techniques, and resources I learned throughout my own inner journey.