4 Tactics Emotional Abusers Use to Hook You
I'm about to hit you with some hardcore truths, so if you haven't been emotionally abused you may be shocked that there are people out there that actually do this.
It may comfort you to know you are not crazy. That there are others, like myself, who have experienced horrendous "psychotic-making" emotional abuse and overcome it.
If you are an empath or a highly sensitive person (HSP), which if you have been emotionally abused then you most probably are, you will most certainly feel their projected emotions and it may even make you feel "heavy", tired or just off-balance after being around emotional abusers.
Even when it's their fault or wrongdoing or when there is a clear ethical or moral issue...
So take Plato and Socrates advice to heart and seriously get to "know thyself" - it will save you.
4 Tactics Emotional Abusers Use to Hook You:
They will say one thing one day and the next day they will say they never said that.
Emotional manipulators are so "emotionally convinced" of this that the emotional charge of their denial is what makes you doubt yourself.
3. Character Assassination
As hard as this is to swallow, especially when the emotional abuser posed as your "friend" or is a family member or ex-lover, do your best not to react or follow the same footsteps in trying to prove yourself because you will look like the "bad" one. This is actually what they want, an emotional reaction to make you look crazy and emotionally unstable.
Stay in your center because you have nothing to prove to them or anyone.
This is, basically, mind control.
Gaslighting can happen slowly over a long period of time.
They start gently, with small things that you most likely will brush off. And this is where it's dangerous...
They use tactics within gaslighting such as the ones mentioned above denial, projection as well as reverse projection, purposely forgetting conversations/dates/experiences also known as toxic amnesia, dismissing or belittling your emotions, lying, acting dumb, playing ignorant, making themselves the victim and all sorts.
Then all of a sudden they will throw in something positive things, make statements to show they are "being considerate" to throw you off and confuse you. Like "I still love you" or "I forgive you though" or "I know this is hard for you and that you have issues so take the time you need to reflect on this, I understand you need space."
If you continue to buy into this, it can literally drive you crazy.
I experienced severe paranoia and acted crazy when I was "asleep" and "under the spell" of narcissists.
It's really not a nice place to be. I felt lost, alone and completely in the dark.
I was so confused and seriously thought maybe I am crazy? Maybe I am the one that's not perceiving things correctly? Maybe there's something wrong with me?
When you wake up from the narcissistic or emotional abuser's spell in a moment like this, go into your heart. Connect to God or whomever you believe in even if it's your higher self and pray.
Pray from your heart - this is what I did because I honestly didn't know what else to do.
I had lost myself.
So all I could do is surrender and pray from my heart.
Your Soul has infinite strength, strength you cannot even imagine you have.
When you can ground yourself in your Soul and stay anchored within your own heart, you will find yourself and this will heal you.
Know that this is a test.
The biggest soul lesson of your life in learning to trust yourself, to stop buying into the illusion and to stand in your power.
"They" actually have no power over you, only the power you give to them.
"You've always had the power my dear, you just had to learn it for yourself." - The Wizard of Oz
Hi, I'm Melany...
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